Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will pick up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to pick him up. - Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
One of the most important aspects of cultivating is not doing all the work ourselves. From the beginning, farmers have utilized oxen, servants, family members, and tools to assist them in cultivating the land. The same is true for us as we improve our own lives to cultivate those around us.
JESUS SURROUNDED HIMSELF WITH HIS FRIENDS.
There is an idea among many Christians that they don’t need people around them in their walk with Christ. They feel as if can tackle life alone. Whether this comes from a sense of pride, arrogance or deceitfulness, it is a false truth. Even Jesus surrounded himself with a group of friends (His disciples) and had an even deeper relationship with a couple of them (John and Peter).
There are several reasons why we can’t walk in a relationship with Jesus alone. First and foremost, if we choose to go solo in our walk, we are sinning by breaking the last commandment Jesus gave us before ascending into Heaven.
“Then Jesus came up and said to them, ‘All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age.’” - Matthew 28 : 18-20
We can’t share Jesus if we are keeping Him to ourselves.
Secondly, having someone walk alongside us gives us someone to lean on when we sin, when we need someone to answer a question, or just need companionship that all humans need. We see this in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, which is stated above.
WE WERE MEANT TO BE IN RELATIONSHIPS.
Friendship, however, shouldn’t solely deal with sin and/or bible-knowledge. Following the example of Christ, friendships should endure life. Jesus broke bread, or ate, with His companions. His friends were with Him when He learned that Lazarus had died, and He wept for his friend. He washed their feet, which in that day and age was a huge deal. Jesus didn’t just speak parables to them, or put them through Holiness 101 class. He interacted with them personally as well as spiritually. It is important that we follow that model and do life with each other!
Will all friendships work out? NO. Sometimes we get burned by those closest to us, sometimes our friends get a job out-of-state, sometimes they aren’t fully devoted to the relationship and the friendship drifts apart. Personally, I have dealt with each of those scenarios. And honestly, I was the one to blame for some of those failed relationships. The most important aspect of walking with Christ is realizing that we are not perfect, but Christ is and we should NEVER stop striving toward His example.
A CHALLENGE FOR EACH OF US
Even if you consider yourself a loner, we all have at least one person around us that has the potential of being that companion. I challenge each of us to do the following:
1) IDENTIFY WHO the companion(s) are in your life
2) IDENTIFY WHAT role you all can fill for each other; we all have strengths and weaknesses, identify them and figure out what each of you can do to fill the gaps in each other’s life
3) COMMIT TO THE RELATIONSHIP and realize the importance of challenging one another, helping one another, and living life together.
Remember, woe to him who is alone, but two are better than one.